P.S. He’s also giving away a 31-minute “Cherrypicker”
video for free.
Some people who saw the sneak preview of this
said it’s some of the most eye-opening, high quality,
and immediately usable internet dating information
they’ve ever seen.
…And that includes the stuff they’ve paid for.
I haven’t seen it so I don’t know what it’s like. I did,
however, sign up to get is when it comes out and
I suggest you do the same.
Here are a few horror stories I found at sfgate.com.
Pretty amusing, and I’ve added lessons to their stories for you:
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“I met this one girl in a chat room. She lived in Missouri and I live in California. She seemed sweet, and we talked online just about every day.
“She had just gotten a house to live in that belonged to her grandmother. She kept asking me if I would go to Missouri to live with her, and kept saying she loved me to tears. I was flattered. I told her I needed to save up money for about three months. I worked two jobs for three months and was completely exhausted.
“So I then had lots of money and I told her I was ready to be with her. I asked if I could come over. She said, ‘I don’t care, I have two guys staying here now.’
“A word to the wise: Look that girl in the eyes.”
______________________ CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
Another word to the wise - date in your own area!
Long distance relationships can work, but they usually come from a scarcity mindset. They come from desperation rather than a healthy attitude.
Trust me, there are probably plenty of women in your area that you don’t know about yet.
Don’t be a sucker from your loneliness.
Next story - from a woman…
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“I met a guy on CraigsList and we had our first date. And in the middle of telling me things that he liked to do and talking about his ex-wife he goes from ‘we liked sailing and buying antiques’ to ‘and I like corsets …’
Excuse me, corsets?
He keeps talking as if he hasn’t said anything off, and I stop him and ask, ‘What do you mean by corsets?’ And he says, yeah, he liked antique corsets and his wife would model them for him.
Oh yeah, you bet this is an appropriate topic of conversation only one hour after meeting someone. I grabbed a cab and ran home and made sure all the doors and windows were securely locked!”
______________________ CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
Yeah, that was a tiny bit weird, but running home and making your doors and windows were locked is a BIG over-reaction.
Trust me, there are far freakier things going on out there. A preference for old-fashioned lace attire is not so bad. Worse things have happened, honey. Get over it.
At least HE wasn’t the one modeling the corsets!
Next story…
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“I am a 50-year-old man, slim, considered good looking and fairly successful.
“I recently answered two ads. The first woman looked vaguely like her picture, although in the picture she had long blond hair, and when we met her hair was short and had long, dark roots. And the picture was better looking than she was in person, and her personality didn’t quite fit the profile. The second woman’s picture showed a youthful-looking, long-haired redhead, looking 10 years younger than her posted age. Upon meeting, I barely recognized her. She had deep facial wrinkles and severely short red hair and looked 10 years older than her posted age. AGH!
“I almost canceled all of the subscriptions until another lovely woman popped up on my account, and I am going to try again. Hope springs eternal, I guess.
“Men will probably say that the women are using their best outdated photos to lure us into meeting them. And women say that men are trying to cheat on their wives or girlfriends. Or they lie about their accomplishments, job, etc.”
______________________ CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
Canceling all your memberships because of just a couple misfires?
Guys, don’t over-react to these kinds of things.
I’d suggest that guys realize the rules of dating online:
1) You will always run into people who misrepresent themselves. Get over it. This is simply the nature of the beast.
Remember that these people are not inherently evil.
They’re just damn lonely. Perhaps you can relate to that and feel a little compassion?
2) Don’t let just ONE bad incident turn you away from online dating.
Or even several weird events. There are no bad dates - only great stories to tell your future girlfriend.
But you won’t have that future girlfriend if you quit because of a few things like this.
PERSEVERE!
3) Keep your sense of humor!
Let’s face it: Online dating is here to stay. It should be an ESSENTIAL part of every man’s dating breakfast.
Learn how to use it effectively so that you can A) laugh at your great stories, B) not take everything too seriously.
He’s only 9, but this pint-sized pickup artist already knows plenty about pleasing the ladies.
So much, in fact, that Alec Greven’s dating primer, “How to Talk to Girls” - which began as a handwritten, $3 pamphlet sold at his school book fair - hit the shelves nationwide last week.
The fourth-grader from Castle Rock, Colo., advises Lothario wannabes to stop showing off, go easy on the compliments to avoid looking desperate - and be wary of “pretty girls.”
“It is easy to spot pretty girls because they have big earrings, fancy dresses and all the jewelry,” he writes in Chapter Three.
“Pretty girls are like cars that need a lot of oil.”
He advises, “The best choice for most boys is a regular girl. Remember, some pretty girls are coldhearted when it comes to boys. Don’t let them get to you.”
Over a few Shirley Temples yesterday at Langan’s on West 47 Street, Alec said that he culled his wisdom by peeking at his peers at play.
“I saw a lot of boys that had trouble talking to girls,” Alec said.
As for his how-to, he concedes, “I never expected people to buy it like a regular book in a bookstore.”
But with classic plain-spoken advice - like “comb your hair and don’t wear sweats” - it’s no surprise his 46-page book was a hit with boys and girls of all ages.
He believes the best way to approach a girl is to keep it to a simple “hi.”
“If I say hi and you say hi back, we’re probably off to a good start,” he said.
As for his own love life, he said he is not dating anyone at the moment. “I’m a little too young,” he confessed.
In his book, published by HarperCollins, he suggests holding off on falling in love until at least middle school.
Dating - which he defines as going out to dinner without your parents - is for “kind of old” people, who are 15 or 16.
Officials at the Soaring Hawk Elementary School said he wrote the book - which was the runaway bestseller at its book fair - for kids, but believe anyone can find inspiration in it.
Alec’s mother, Erin Greven, credits her son’s beyond-his-years insight to his avid reading.
“He reads nonstop. At dinner, I say, ‘Put your book down,’ ” she said.
Alec - who just finished a children’s book on the Watergate scandal - said he wants to be a full-time writer when he grows up, with a weekend job in archaeology or paleontology.
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I say good for him…
This kid might be my competition someday. It gives me great hope that some guys are learning the right information early on.
I am just happy that - even though the article is written in a cutesie sort of condescending tone - people seem to understand that it is something of a problem for young guys.
My only concern is that his contribution will be laughed at as just silly adolescent ideas.
My favorite line:
“Pretty girls are like cars that need a lot of oil.”
It’s this “natural” craze that is going down in the community right now.
I am sure you’re sick of hearing about it…as am I.
Well, the bad news is that someone else is entering the “fray” of
teaching guys how to be naturally attractive to women.
The good news is that it’s one of the most respected and successful
guys in the scene - Stephen Nash. You might remember my interview
with him a few months back.
I’ve been talking Stephen up to you for the last couple of weeks - and there’s
a reason why.
He’s one of the few - and I mean FEW - who actually walks the walk. He’s a
guy you can learn a LOT from.
Stephen is also known as Playboy, from “The Game”, and along with Mystery & Neil, helped found Project Hollywood….aah, so, he’s been around and knows
a thing or two.
He’s releasing a new program, called “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up” where
he breaks down the structure and skills to a natural pick-up. Literally, he
walks you through EXACTLY what to do to meet and naturally attract
beautiful women.
He shows you the map AND he plots the course for you.
Stephen’s seen the best - and I mean the BEST - guys in action, and
then became one of them himself.
His “natural” game skills are unparalleled and are worth your serious
attention.
I won’t go on and on about this program, as you can read about it
yourself since it’s just gone LIVE.
PS: I can totally understand if you’re sick of all the launches and programs
out there right now, but I picked up a copy and got a listen to what Stephen
teaches and I knew you’d want me to let you know about it.
Let me know what you think of the program by sending me an email…
My friend Nathan over at the 3X Method sent me this article for you guys.
This is interesting stuff regarding attraction and fitness levels. Be sure to post your comments on the article…
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“Do You Shape Up For Sex?”
I think most guys at one time or another have wondered why women or that specific woman may not be attracted to them. At first glance it looks like all the right pieces are there but things just don’t quite materialize as we think they should. Many times this is when you start to wonder is there something outside of your control; is there something missing.There are different camps out there when it comes to what really attracts women. Some say it really is all personality and that, if you learn the attraction techniques and mindset you will be able to attract gorgeous women in your sleep.While I do believe it’s very important to learn these skills, I think some focus too much on it and rationalize to themselves it’s all they need. If they can memorize every line, be prepared for any scenario they are in a sense bullet-proof and ready for success.
Then there’s the group that thinks all you need is big shoulders, big chest and a six pack and you will have women dragging you home to have their way with you. I don’t agree with this either because I don’t care how built you are, that will only last so long if you can only muster shallow, personality lacking conversation. Again, there is value in taking care of your body not only for physical appearance, but also how it affects confidence and mindset. As a man you want to become the ultimate package and to do that one must look at the whole picture.There is a place in the middle; the truth very rarely resides in the extremes so that’s what we’re going to talk about today. The biological factors that come into play that most men are not aware of.
Research has actually been done to look deeper into why some women are attracted to certain guys and why some are not.For example, Polish scientists discovered that when it comes to choosing a man, the more sexy and curvaceous a woman is the more importance she places on a man’s looks.Curvier women tend to have more estrogen and a greater maternal urge to find a partner who looks like he will produce strong babies, provide for and protect a family.Women are wired to be attracted to certain physical traits just as they are to behavior, confidence and success. Without trying to sound barbaric you see this in nature over and over again. When it comes to mating, whether you’re talking about lions or even chimpanzees, the more powerful dominant males have more success.
The weak and more submissive males are beaten up, last to eat and many times they are almost forced to go out on their own or die. We’re not talking about animals; however, the similarities in sexual behavior are undeniable.
According to David Frederick and his team of researchers at UCLA, muscular men are likely to have more sex partners than their less-physically impressive competition. They also found that muscular men are twice as likely to have had more than three sex partners as less muscular men.
Their research suggests men with muscles are comparable to elaborate tail feathers in male peacocks: They attract females looking for a masculine mate. “Women are predisposed to prefer muscularity in men,” said study author David Frederick of UCLA.
Interestingly enough there are some studies out there that say women are more concerned with how much money men make and their level of commitment. Fredrick of UCLA found that muscularity and physical characteristics actually mattered more.
In the study 141 women were asked to look at six standardized silhouettes of men ranging from more muscular to slender. “Most preferred a toned man who was more likely to commit over a muscle-bound man they perceived as more volatile, aggressive and dominant.”
So here’s the deal, women are not looking for some muscle bound maniac but rather a guy who’s in shape enough that it’s noticeable and also displays behavior consistent with commitment.
Here we are again back somewhere between the extremes. As I said before, most times we find the truth somewhere in the middle; life is about balance and it’s a man’s job to find it. He that can accomplish this will live a life to be envied and enjoyed.
So at the end of the day it’s important for us as men to learn the laws of attractiveness and the behaviors that are consistent with those laws. It’s equally important to understand certain biological factors are at play that just can’t be avoided. Women are wired to be attracted to the physical as much as the behavior and confidence you project. Take care of the mind and take care of the body.
Think about this, you may be funny, have that attractive magnetic personality but if the guy who is muscular and physically in balance does too who do you think is going to be leaving with her at the end of the night.
About the author: Nathan Hopkins is a men’s fitness and weight loss expert. His primary focus is not only to help men feel more powerful but to look the part as well. Through his 3X Method he helps guys find the physique that women biologically cannot help but be attracted to. You can learn more about the 3X Method here…
I was embarrassed easily, and I always wanted to avoid those
situations where I was put at the center of attention.
(But secretly I wanted to get that attention without all the
feelings of people “seeing” me in the wrong way, if you know what I
mean…)
So I’d be very quiet when I went to gatherings or social events
like my friends’ birthday parties. Eventually, I’d come “out of my
shell” when I found out the other kids were cool and wouldn’t make
fun of me.
But every time I was in front of someone new - BOOM! The shyness
would come back. And the shy guy came back, too.
And as I got older, that shyness started to get in the way of me
meeting girls.
I started noticing the girls when I was very young, too. I was hot
for a girl in my 1st grade class, believe it or not. Her name was
Julie, a raven-haired beauty. I still remember what she looks like
to this day.
I mean, there were dozens of cute girls around, but I couldn’t seem
to get anything started - even in high school - because I just
didn’t understand that…
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