Race and the women you target

[McKhiel]

I have a question in the back of my mind that has been disturbing for quite some time everytime I think of the type of woman I would like to approach. See I am bi-racial, half-black half-white. I look black, but I mainly am attracted to white women, however, I'm sort of thinking this wouldn't work due to seeing so many closed minded people (perhaps in the media). I think to myself, "She's pretty, but doesn't seem like the type who would like a "black" guy..." I'm not sure if perhaps I am accurately judging, or if I am simply projecting my own insecurities based on faulty beliefs, or what? Can anyone provide some insight?

[K-Man]

Society wants you to feel insecure, so that way, you will go and be a hard-working, productive member and buy a yacht and a Ferrari before it will release its grip on your mind and let you go have the women you want.

Forget about that and go for the woman you want, no matter their race. It's just a bunch of negative, crappy patterns in your mind, put there to stop you from getting the women you want. Because a guy who can get sex for himself at any time will be less likely to work for society and keep it moving forward.

Originally Posted by McKhiel

I have a question in the back of my mind that has been disturbing for quite some time everytime I think of the type of woman I would like to approach. See I am bi-racial, half-black half-white. I look black, but I mainly am attracted to white women, however, I'm sort of thinking this wouldn't work due to seeing so many closed minded people (perhaps in the media). I think to myself, "She's pretty, but doesn't seem like the type who would like a "black" guy..." I'm not sure if perhaps I am accurately judging, or if I am simply projecting my own insecurities based on faulty beliefs, or what? Can anyone provide some insight?

[cedar]

I ended up at an african-american club the other day. Despite being in the midwest, we're seeing more and more ethnic-specific venues.

The room was full of black men. Black women. An the whitest, blondest girls I have ever seen. I don't think your ethnicity is an issue.

Hell, my wife loves it when a nice strong black man checks her out.

You may have to try a few venues before you feel comfortable. But allow yourself to let go of your limiting beliefs and step by step achieve your dreams.

[McKhiel]

Thanks guys. I guess I do just have silly negative patterns. The gal I met last night and brought home to spend the night was white. The girl I am going out with tonight to celebrate new years eve is white. And I'm sure the next one I lay will be white. I guess that there is the proof.

[Paul]

I go to school in Philadelphia and I know a TON of white women who are attracted to African-American men. Just go for what you want.

[McKhiel]

Well last night it happened. Laid a white gal. lol

[Paul]

Good job! See? No worries.

[McKhiel]

Last night, white woman #2 was seduced into bringing me home with her from the club for a little more fun. That's 2. Also made out with another earlier this week. Just goes to show when you dare to defy the cognitive distortions and self-imposed limitations in your mind, you get what you're looking for.

[LeiterCIA]

Dont think be thinking that the whole "Would that girl like a guy like me?" is any more or any less an issue when it comes to 'race'. You find over time that you just can't ever assume what a girl will go for and what she wont -- and more times than not, you'd probably be surprised. Sometimes I dont know what surprises me more, the type of girls who go for me, who I didn't think would, or the type of girls who reject me, who I never thought would. It's all a crap shoot.

I agree with everyone here, you just never know what kind of a guy girls will be attracted to. Black or white, tall or short, big or small, etc.

Just a funny note on the "attractiveness" of black people. When I was still a teenager a friend of mine (black guy) asked me if I thought being "too black" was unattractive? To which I said, 'Do you think being 'too white' is attractive? Why do you think we're always laying trying to get a tan??" He laughed.

Congrats on tapping 'the other white meat!'