Do I try to hard?

[broadcast]

Hello, recently I was told by a friend that the reason I haven't had much success in the dating world is because. "I try to hard".
Recently I moved to a new place with a new Job. I've been going out to restaurants,bars, clubs, and everyday places. I've been talking to many guys and girls trying to get contacts. I have really been working hard on my social skills. I been taking in a lot from Carlos recently too(which has been very helpful). I feel that dating world where I am is difficult or not as easy as it was in college. I feel I have to put more effort into it.

I find time for my hobbies and interests, but I just got a job doing one of my hobbies so after work, I don't really have the energy to do more of that so... I go out and interact with people. I live alone and have no wingman, so everything I do is really dependent on me, I believe that I have to approach women because they never(rarely) approach us.

Does this guy really understand the dating world or might I be doing something wrong?

I been going at it for 6 months and still no girlfriend or good contacts....

I'm not giving up though....but do I have to cut back a little and just let things happen on there own? My question for him is if I don't act will it ever happen..... He says that I can't make getting a girlfriend my life goal.

[JishyB]

You know, I feel the same way. I've been trying my hardest to follow this path of self-improvement, and further to become this illustrious alpha man. Thankfully, I'm still in college which takes a bit of the pressure off, and allows me to develop my skills as such, but I don't feel that the improvements or techniques that I am developing are making much of an impact.

[dude4242]

get as much info as you can from all the sources carlos has. there are times when you get a little down and say, man I want to go back to doing it my old way or I just want to quit this is too much. but the thing is you got to continue, get better and smarter and learn from your mistakes. carlos has a good book the seduction guide. and use his "4 ways a women can tell if your confident rule." practice and get a good wingman (not so much meaning he has to be a master seducer, but a guy who you can get along with and is also becoming or already is a alpha male.