Daytime indirect openers

[Suman]

I see a woman standing at the bus stop waiting for her bus, waiting in a queue or just about sitting in a cafe by herself, how do I open her?

secondly, you are walking down the road and you see two HBs standing talking to each other, whats the best way to indirectly open them during the daytime?

[Sasho]

At bus stops just ask whether bus number ... has recently passed by. She says smth, u ask her "hey, did u hear that ....smth (eg. Sex and the city is coming out. I wonder can a guy enjoy that???) and u start talking. If u got any luck she'll be on the same bus with u.

I'm curios for the other scenarios as well. I am at a complete loss there. I mean, if I see girls on the street walking past me, I might ask them if they know a good place to eat or smth, but although a conversation starts I haven't managed to get a number yet from that situation. The conversation goes flat very quickly. Any help?

[mikijam09]

hey i read your story... and something that always works for me.. its that you have to keep talking talking ..... just ask randon question... dont be afraid..... good luck...

[dbrooks]

Hi Suman,

I heard Carlos mention a senerio to approaching - you can walk up and ask for the time. (It is good to smile) "gauge their response" friendly? energetic? cold? negative vibe? You can decide from here where to take it. If you like then,


Once you have opened with that you could say, thanks. I have a little time to spare while I wait for a (you can fill in the blank) can you recommend a good restaurant for (dinner, lunch, breakfast)

Since the topic is openers, hope this helps ... Good luck bro!

[Marcus Aurelius]

I like what mikijam09 said: "Just keep talking..." The real trick is to stay interesting at the same time or you will loose them. You can just keep blathering on about the weather, but eventually the girls will shut you out and you'll be talking to yourself. I would amend that comment to "keep talking, but be interesting." And remember, it doesn't have to be particularly clever, just somewhat entertaining or fun.

What I have learned is you have to try to keep the conversation moving forward, getting to know the person more by getting more personal. The best way to go from talking about the weather to talking about personal stuff is to lead the way by telling something about yourself. If you make yourself vulnerable first, she will feel safer in sharing herself. Now comes the hardest part, when she shares, you have to LISTEN! If you really listen, she'll usually say something that gives you something else to talk about. This is how natural conversations are made.

Sometimes she won't warm up to you at first, so you have to keep working to get her into the conversation. I don't believe in routines, but I do love to have a few polished personal stories on tap. Think of a time something cool, exciting, or even embarrassing that happened to you. Shorten your story to just the interesting and important parts. Practice transitioning to topics that can relate to your story, then practice telling your story to everyone. Remember, it's not unusual to jump around in topics, but you still have to fit the situation. You can't go from talking about the weather to talking about how you shit your pants on a 5th grade field trip. That's just weird!

Of course before you can get into any of this you have to go up and talk to the girl!

Have fun!
-Marcus