do you think she likes me?

[slingingshot15]

hey there, there is this girl in work who is always teasing me 1 minute and then treating me nice the next minute. eg. every morning once i go into her section to get a file she will say hello brian, how u going brian, did u have breakfast this mornining brian and a ton of other stuff like that... i always act calm and show no emotion whatsoever....i do not pay too much att'n to her

other times she would just tease me about my hair.....cause i have a few grey hair...she once said how old r u brian....like you old like the road or what....she says these things in a real friendly way....when she said that the boss man told me 'aye brian...you taking that!!!' before i could say anything she jumps in and tell the boss 'aye..brian is a nice fellar eh...'

another time i heard she was calling me for a file and when i went she just said...'actually i was just calling you so i could see you...'

i tend to act really indifferent around her as though i dont want her when i know that i do...what do you guys think...does she like me?

also when i leave work early she has a really worried look on her face (as though i am going to meet another girl...lol) and she always want to know why i am leaving...

what do you all think....this has been going on about 1 month now ...i think i nee to get her no. as the next step....what do you guys think and what should be my next step and how to go about it....

[M3ISTER]

Yeah, she's definitely showing some IOI's, but at the same time I have very strict personal guidelines: Never dip your pen in the company ink, and absense makes the heart go fonder. If you do and things go well, good for you, but you'll be seeing each other all the time. If things don't, you'll be seeing each other all the time.

The former means that without a bit of seperation, the attraction generated from being seperate for 8 hours or so will lose itself so fast your eyes will spin and you'd eventually get sick of seeing each other.

If things phase out or even don't go well, you'll be seeing each other... The worse the situation, the crappier the feeling (e.g. going out with each other and dropped into the LJBF zone after the first date is 10x better than discovering that she's damaged goods, she talked about marrying you on the 1st date AND has 10 illegitimate kids from 9 different guys).

Not to mention that some companies have policies about going beyond work mates and may fire you, her, or both. If there's no policy, it's still somewhat of a social taboo, and again, read the last 2 paragraphs.

I know I'm bending the Alpha rules a tiny bit, but tell her that you just want to be friends (who knows, she might have a few SHB friends that are outside of company territory), then go pursue other women. But that's just me and what I would do.