Looking for openers/conversational ideas for the following situations ...

[milesdavis]

I just started listening to Approaching Women 2. Carlos talks about observing situations where we feel stopped, and then planning openers, etc., for them to visualize success.

Specific places/examples where I've found myself stopped are:

The Gym. I was having lunch in the gym cafe this afternoon, which is situated right next to the entrance. A stunning woman walked in. She walked past the cafe and on into the gym. I really don't know how I would have started a conversation with her without chasing her down. And, tonight there was another cute girl doing free weights. Again, I don't know how I could have worked that one. Any ideas for "Gym Game" in general?

Starbucks. I was working on my computer when a 10 walked in. She stood in line and I couldn't think of anything to say.

The Mall. We have a local mall that's packed with 10's almost every day. They're usually walking and talking with each other ... or, at the very least walking by themselves. Keyword: walking.

Again, I've just started listening to AW2 - maybe Carlos talks about gyms, cafes and malls specifically later in the program - but I'm curious if anyone here has any thoughts. (Or could say, "Go listen to CD 7.")

Thanks!

[Marcus Aurelius]

Here are some suggestions for things I've tried. They don't always work, but with practice it might lead somewhere for you. At the very least it might inspire you to think of something on your own.

At the Gym: If she's working one of the machines, you might ask her if you can work in with her. You do your sets while she rests between hers. You can goof around a bit and act like her weights are too much for you, or just start a normal conversation. If she's on the free weights you can ask if she needs a spotter. Start a conversation about anything (don't be negative), but work towards getting to know her personally. Remember she will be more likely to share if you share first! If the conversation stalls, get her name and move on. Odds are good you will see her again either later that day or on another day. Guess what, you already know each other on a first-name basis!

At Starbucks: Your best bet here is to talk to the people in line. Man, woman, young, old, fat, thin, you get the picture. Then talk to the barristas. Ask someone seated what they're drinking. The point is to be social, and be seen as a social guy. If you haven't talked to a hottie by this point, scan the seating area and see what's available. If you do sit, try to be strategic about sitting near the waiting line, or near the cream and sugar stand. Or, if you can manage it sit in a desirable location where others might want to sit near you. If you see someone in line while you're working on your laptop, unless you can think of a reason to casually walk past them to start a conversation, you might just have to go in and be direct.

At the Mall: There's a few things you can try in the mall, but if you're targets are walking, it's best to approach them while walking in the same direction. You might ask a question or make a casual statement over your shoulder while you walk. Or, a gimmick I learned somewhere is to spray two different colognes on each wrist and ask them which they thought was better. If you see some girls in a store like Forever 21, you can always tell them they look like stylish girls and you'd like their help with a gift for your sister. Girls a pro shoppers, so it's not hard to enlist their help for that. Just be sure to make good conversation and get interested in what she has to say. Better yet, find a topic both of you are interested in.

Have fun!
-Marcus