energy

[gymrat]

I want to ask you guys, if you have any ideas about how to charge a conversation with things like sexual tension. I think I need to work on my energy and enthusiasm because this last girl I was seeing seemed interested at first, but I got the feeling after a while that I was gonna end up in the friend zone, and I did.

I know what the problem was, it was my energy levels, I just was'nt keeping her interest. I'd tease her and make her laugh, but there were times when I was too busy trying to think of things to say and then I would'nt have anything to say. It was awkward.

Also, if anybody has any good ideas about flirting I'd appreciate hearing about some of your experiences. I know it's all covered in Carlos's products but I'd like to hear more from the forum.

[imported_carlosX]

Here's what I want all guys to do: Start working on developing your PERSONALITY.

Not to sound flippant here, but most guys need to bring out the parts of their personality that might be:

- Goofy
- Weird
- Offbeat
- Zany

I personally have no problem showing my goofy/wacky side in public. I just don't care if someone is going to think I'm weird. In fact, it's more endearing that way, and it takes the "player" edge off it all.

You should also start creating "characters." These are people or characters you imitate to add on to your humor. I have a Drill Sargeant, The Emperor from Star Wars, a hillbilly, a crazy Scottsman...

[RabPSU1986]

As far as the awkward silence things goes...

You don't want to encounter these often, if at all, as you all ready know; but, you do want to do exactly what Carlos said in the previous reply: develop your personality.

One way to do this is to use some of the topics that are outlined in some of Carlos' materials concerning topics to talk about around women.

You don't want to talk about the same old crap, like jobs, age, previous relationships, etc. You need to think of material that would appeal to women because it is different.

One of your most useful tools in the game is spontanaity - or as us kids call it these days: being random - girls eat it up!

If you think the conversation is going to die, or you have an awkward silence, pop in a random question...

"Hey, I was talking to some friends the other day and we got on a really... crazy... topic. I want to know your stance on it." - Wait a few seconds, not to get her approval, but to add suspense.

"Anyway, we ended up discussing the one animal we would all personally be if you had the ability to transform into it whenever you wanted... My buddy Jim said he'd be a peacock... How absurd is that? What would you be?" etc, etc...

And don't just ask these types of random questions to the girls that you take out - ask them to everyone! Your guy friends, your brother, your mom, your co-workers - because not only does this give you practice at asking these types of questions in a real social setting, but it also gives you ammunition to give examples to your lady(ies) in these very situations, as described above.

Hope this helps - draft up some of your own questions, or take a look at Carlos' stuff - very powerful...

[RALPHAEL]

Originally Posted by carlosX

Here's what I want all guys to do: Start working on developing your PERSONALITY.

Not to sound flippant here, but most guys need to bring out the parts of their personality that might be:

- Goofy
- Weird
- Offbeat
- Zany

I personally have no problem showing my goofy/wacky side in public. I just don't care if someone is going to think I'm weird. In fact, it's more endearing that way, and it takes the "player" edge off it all.

You should also start creating "characters." These are people or characters you imitate to add on to your humor. I have a Drill Sargeant, The Emperor from Star Wars, a hillbilly, a crazy Scottsman...

This sounds like a gr8 idea, and I personally think its something I should go for.

I mean at this stage I still haven't mastered my personality yet. For instance in one night I'll go from the quiet guy to the most outrageous dude of the night and sometimes I do miss the boat when it's come to getting real personal and serious with the ladies. I know the name of the game is PLAY, but I do find it kind of hard to make the transition from the goofy state of mind to the lover one.

As a goof, when I kino escalate a babe while chatting her up, I do tend to take it for granted, it's like a dream. I don't focus on the action of the moment. The lack of inhibition created by that goofy character do prevent me from really enjoying the intimacy.

What is your take on this type of situation, Carlos???

Thanks.