Dealing with obsession

[Cockney Charmer]

Do not get me wrong you could never say I am aguy who is obsessed by a woman in a capacity where I would do something unhealty far from it but. When I am attracted to a girl I think about her allot i.e Interactions we have had, sexual fantasies, what to say to her when I next see her. The attraction just losses it casualness, spontanity and fun factor and becomes to intense which in a way is unhealty how do I cure this big thing which is killing my love life.

[acus]

Get another hobby, find more interests, find something you're passionate about. Thinking about her is somewhat natural but it shouldn't consume you.

[Cockney Charmer]

Thanks I will take up a hobby.

[nikothegr8]

Tell me about it. I think obsession is like a habit. Your mind is trained to get obsessed with the girl you like. Mine was too. Hobbies didn't help me ( I am an artist) because when I was doing my work, she was always there in my subconscios, like addiction, and I couldn't totaly focus on my work and being an artist and obsessed with a girl is bad. Now I trained my mind not to get obsessed and it functions better i think but what suck's for me is that I am obsessive compulsive type of person and I get easily obsessed...
I guess real men don't let themselves get obsessed with girls. So, I hope I'll have a lot of chemistry and magic in the future. You too.

[jayson02]

do what carlos said ABF (always be flirting) with other women that you will have much fun that you don't have to be obsess with her so much

and recently I have found out that you should walk pass by universities or colleges and you will see that there are many HB much much prettier that her that you should not be over obsess over her

[c-rock]

I can't remember but one of carlos programs has a chapter called "keeping mental distance" dont quote me on it I think its from secrets of the alpha male program.

But you need to keep your mind in a healthy state by not focusing so much on her and the outcome of the relationship, because you will become weird and obsessive.