unpredictable - in a bad way???

[Trezza]

hi guys,
i was recently talking with a girl friend of mine, and we started talking about my personality- she said that i was unpredictable - and i thought this was a good thing - so i said so, but she said no - in a bad way.
i was a bit shocked, i asked her to explain, but she couldn't so i quickly changed the topic and moved on to a different subject.
I have been thinking about the conservation and can't understand what she meant - if any of you guys have any ideas please share them!
Thanks ppl

[Paul]

she may just be frustrated that she can't figure you out and manipulate you like she can to every other guy. keep doing with carlos says.

[Dimos]

I think that you are missing the wood for the trees (or something like that :? ). Here is the deal.

She says that you have the X quality.

You know that this is good.

She says it is not.

You doubt yourself... but only because she said so.

She made you doubt yourself.

This is the problem... not the actual predictability or any other quality you may or may not have.

These are the so called "frame games". AKA tests.

[magic-stone]

Originally Posted by Trezza

i was a bit shocked, i asked her to explain, but she couldn't

Dimos is on the money with his advice on this.

I used to say to girls 'you're sexually repressed' and they'd say 'do you think?' and I'd say 'yes' and kiss them.
I didn't have a scooby's if they were or not.

i asked her to explain, but she couldn't

ex-actly.

[LeiterCIA]

Think about what the alternative would be. She says you are "unpredictable in the bad way". What would it mean if she said you were "predictable, in the good way"?

Best case scenario is that she's suggesting you are reliable. But I think if she meant this, she'd have clearly told you you were unreliable -- but she didnt.

I think she's saying she can't control you. I think Dimos nailed it.

Take it as a good sign.

[License2Thrill_007]

Women often say one thing and mean another as Carlos says look at what they do not what they say. Does she touch you a lot or give lots of eye contact?

How women communicate is not as direct as men remember that